One Little Word

Well I did say my next blog was going to be on friendships, well I changed my mind, because first of all I hand write all my blogs. Yep I’m old school like that. And as I read back over my words, it just wasn’t working for me. It wasn’t doing justice to all my wonderful friends. So I want to refine, rewrite and write more than one blog on this topic. I just want to show my friends how much I love them and the impact that they have on me and this blog. So hopefully I can get creative and make an awesome read for all. But until then-

I’m writing today about new years resolutions. Yes I know the first month of 2015 is gone. Gone in a flash I say, but this is a different concept on resolutions and thought it might be nice to share. Its a whole lot easier then having the same old goals every year that by February you have started chain smoking again, put back on the 5 kilos that you lost in the first 2 weeks or packed up your sewing machine because this year you were going to finish every single project that you had ever started. Does this sound like you? This is me every single year, sometimes I might get to the end of March. I must admit I did succeed with one of my resolutions last year. Do not read horoscopes. I know kinda dumb but if your anything like me I was addicted and whatever it would say I believed. “You will come in to money this week.” Hello where is my millions “If you’ve wanted to start a book, blog or other means of self-expression, Saturn in your communication zone makes it easier to create the structure and discipline to support your dreams. You’re definitely being stretched to speak your mind more than ever before.” Ok SHUT UP!!! I just read this, word for word. It’s so so true. hahaha this is why I had to stop reading them.

Well this year I have just chosen one little word. One little word is about pinpointing one guiding principle and then walking with that word throughout the year. Great idea Hey? I thought it was and unfortunately I can’t take credit for it. I read a blog about it and thought I’m so doing that. It didn’t take me very long to think of a word. WILLING! and this come about because I find that I never want to do much and spread my wings out of my comfort zone, but this word didn’t sit right with me. I found that I had to think about it to much. It’s said that the word should find you, but I knew I was searching for it. So I forgot about one little word until one day when this happened- So I usually have a plan for the day that goes something like feeding Frankie, watching her lay there for a bit, then sleep, while she slept I did the jobs for the day or sat on Facebook. She was so easy for the first 2 weeks coming home, but this day it changed and she wanted to challenge me. Instead of being this beautiful baby girl and only crying when she was hungry, she decided it would be awesome to cry and cry and cry for hours. I couldn’t get anything done and I kept thinking of all the things I need to do. I’m trying to calm her down and only getting more tense because I’m thinking I need to make the bed or wash the bottles or shower or start that craft project I saw on pinterest last night. STOP!!! I needed to stop thinking and to focus on the task at hand and getting your daughter asleep. BOOM my word “FOCUS”

A point upon which attention, activity etc, is directed on concentrated.

So I tend to think of to many things at once and half the time these things don’t even matter. The washing and dishes will still be there tomorrow if I don’t get them done today. I do shower everyday though. Frankie does sleep every now and then, for more than 5 minutes at a time. I couldn’t slow down and just focus on the task at hand. I was getting worried because my mind wouldn’t stop and I wasn’t soaking up in my beautiful daughters little life. I forgot to play with her, because I was to busy thinking of other things or scrolling through facebook. I was disgusted in myself for forgetting to even talk to her during the day. Yes she might be a baby and I think I thought she needs to eat, sleep and poo. That’s all. I was wrong. I just needed to stop and focus on her. Lay there with her, sing shake it off to her, show her things and just watch her be her. So the word focus started to work, not every single day but it definitely helped. I forgot about everything apart from the one thing I was doing at the time. This also works when it comes to writing this blog and working on my calisthenics routines or just trying to take a nap without thinking oh crap I haven’t put the washing on. I can wait till I wake up. I need this one little word to help my achieve my goals for the year. Yes I still have resolutions, but the word helps me in the moment.

TRY IT! pick one little word for yourself if you find you keep failing at your new years resolutions. Yes one month has already gone by, but there are still 11 months of the year to get through. I would love to know your words so leave a comment.

My word failed me slightly today my focus was meant to be on this blog, but Frankie decided she wanted to be a little turd and when she was being a smiley turd I also knew where my focus should be.

Till next time hugs and love Kate and Frankieellen